Our Wellbeing patients are a tight knit group who share their experiences and time with each other openly and honestly. From this, strong bonds of friendship develop and the best parts of human nature are allowed time to grow organically and freely. 

Ian, a Wellbeing patient, has made a tea cozy for a friend he first met at St Wilfrid's. This labour of love has been a talking point around the hospice for weeks and is a fantastic example of how hospice care brings people together around their conditions but frees them to grow closer as individuals.

We sat down and chatted with Ian and Molly (who he made the piece for) about knitting and crochet, friendship and the power of remembrance through objects made with love. 

Ian

'Wednesday afternoons were a patient-led session – the connection we made there were vital to us. In fact they were helpful in all manner of ways! It’s been a boon to our own wellbeing, we’ve made friends and the crossover between different groups has been lovely

'Jean did the assembly work and I did the tapestry. Jean’s made an impervious lining to protect from the heat – it does a fine job ensuring the colours don’t run. I started this in mid-October and I finished it in mid-February. It’s been lots of collaboration this piece, lots of shared decision making and consulting of wise heads together. What colour? What shape?

'I’ve been working 2 hours a day, 5 days a week on this to get it looking beautiful. It’s a bit of a job, a long stint, a real labour of love for me. If I saw something I didn’t like I had to unpick it. That took, not to put too fine a point on it, a LONG time. Luckily I’m more patient than clever! I wanted to make this piece for a good friend I’d made here in the hospice.

'One lady, who shall remain nameless, said to Molly ‘well, Ian can make you one!’ after she had said she’d quite like to have purchased it. It makes me laugh because that little comment ended up being hours of my time!

'I began knitting a while back and one of the first things I ever did was a long stitch. We talked to Becky, the Income Generation manager, and she agreed to let me put it in the hospice shop. The piece was sold quickly and that pleased me no end!

'The garden in the picture represents our surroundings and is a classic rural Sussex scene – the cottages and beautiful structured messiness of an English garden.

Molly

'There’s a real danger that it’s so lovely that I might not feel confident enough to use it! I’ll have to be brave and use it every day now. That seems the absolute best way to appreciate Ian’s work here, for it to be involved in every making of tea. What a gift!'